This week’s 20-year anniversary of New Zealand decriminalising prostitution offers little to celebrate, say advocates
who lobbied against the law change in 2003.
Stop Demand, which works to end sexual violence and exploitation, says the collateral damage from normalising the buying
and selling of sex far outweighs any self-congratulatory ‘backslaps’ that are likely during NZ Prostitutes’ Collective
planned three days of ‘celebration’ this week.
Stop Demand’s founder, Denise Ritchie, says “Decriminalisation has lured desperate young women and migrants into the trade, has fuelled child prostitution and trafficking, facilitated illegal brothels and led to a host of negative impacts across residential and business communities, on councils and others.” Impacts that are detailed in a 2021, 88-page evidenced-based Report.
“But what is of greatest concern is the toll taken on vulnerable women including young women, and other sex sellers
who’ve been caught up in the trade,” says Ritchie.
Stop Demand says its stance and those of other advocates are not ‘anti-sex’. It distinguishes platforms like Tinder that facilitate hook ups for parties seeking sex.
Prostitution, it says, is a very different beast - a trade where typically only one party wants sex, the buyer. Men,
many of whom believe they have bought the right to inflict on their ‘purchase’, acts and abuse that would never be
consented to by their wives, partners or Tinder hook ups.
Decriminalisation has not, as touted in 2003, reduced the violence. At best, it offers avenues for reporting violence,
but only after harm has occurred. At its extreme end, the law offered nothing to Bella Te Pania, Renee Duckmanton, Mellory Manning, Suzie Sutherland, a name suppressed 24-year-old, murdered women who were viciously and variously raped, bashed, set on fire, strangled, mutilated, and repeatedly run
over and dumped, most by sex buyers.
Damaging day-to-day violence and threats of violence also remain widespread across all sectors – street, managed
brothels and SOOBs (small owner operated brothels), a fact acknowledged in a Ministry of Justice Report five years post-decriminalisation (pages 56-58).
In speaking to students at a London conference, Kiwi woman Chelsea, rated No. 1 for many years by one of Auckland’s largest brothels, shares the grim reality after twenty years of
selling sex. She slams the New Zealand decriminalisation model and the dangers of it being “aggressively marketed to young girls as ‘sex work’, as an equal exchange between consenting adults, as harmless fun for
men, and even as empowering for women. It is not.”
‘Survivor Stories’ on Wahine Toa Rising, a survivor-led support group, are littered with firsthand accounts of the ravages and damage to body, mind, soul and
spirit. Accounts of Kiwi sex buyers, enabled by the law to abuse, degrade, belittle, rape and inflict pain in order to
‘get off’.
“Decriminalising prostitution has simply strengthened and emboldened misogynistic attitudes amongst New Zealand sex
buyers”, writes one survivor. “I believe that for many punters, causing mental discomfort to the girl/woman they buy is necessary for them to truly
enjoy the experience … I thought I had a low self-esteem at 17, but prostitution has absolutely destroyed it.”
Another, Sara, says of her experiences before and after decriminalisation “Prostitution is not a life and not work. Definitely not work. Paid rape most definitely.” Yet even rape is difficult to prove, as one first-time sex seller found, after her buyer was acquitted. Despite a law that claims to protect them, many women are forced to ‘put up with’ serious abuse and degradation.
Stop Demand notes there are some ‘winners’ from decriminalisation including pimps, brothel owners – and sex buyers. Countless Auckland men who paid to rape, one thousand times, a pimped 15-year-old girl with impunity. Four men who received a ‘slap’ for paying to rape a trafficked 15-year-old girl; with a 66-year old gallingly receiving empathy from a judge.
Gangs, unsurprisingly, are among the law’s other ‘winners’. Media organisations like NZ Herald/NZME are also ‘winners’,
profiting from advertising women’s bodies for sex, even those of ‘young girls’, including profiting from facilitating rapes of a 15-year-old.
Broken women, girls and other sellers are collateral damage of the law. Not fitting the ‘happy hooker’ narrative of
NZPC, its supporters and political allies, particularly within Labour and the Green Party, their stories are commonly
downplayed. ‘Inconvenient truths’, says Stop Demand.
NZPC is pushing for prostitution to be ‘destigmatised’. Stop Demand argues that stigma is rightly fitting for a trade
that, despite being state-sanctioned, irreparably damages lives, far too many.
“New Zealand has a high tolerance and a very low bar as regards violence towards women, with one of the highest rates in the OECD. Prostitution sits within that milieu of violence”’ says Ritchie.
“New Zealand is a permissive not progressive nation. Progressive countries such as Sweden, Norway, Iceland, Northern
Ireland, Canada, France, Ireland and Israel all view prostitution as violence towards women. In tackling male demand and
setting a higher bar through the ‘Nordic Model’ of prostitution, which criminalises only the buying of sex, boys and men are being educated towards a more gender
equitable and violence-free society. New Zealand is totally out of step.”
Stop Demand believes the million dollar tax-payer funded NZPC lobby has beguiled many with sanitising gloss and cognitive dissonance. It enables and emboldens callous and degrading
behaviours and attitudes from men. It has thrown damaged colleagues ‘under the bus’. The marking of twenty years, says
Stop Demand, should be a time of lament, not celebration.