Heather Roy's Diary
Heather Roy's Diary
The tragic deaths of twin boys Chris
and Cru Kahui has still been very
much on the minds of
the New Zealand public this week. Radio talkback is
still
running hot and everwhere I go people express their horror
at what
must have been a terrible end to their short
lives. No charges have been
laid but it is widely thought
that they died from injuries caused by
physical violence.
The refusal of the family to co-operate with police
added
to the dismay and comments by those close to the family such
as
that the silence is due to the family being in the
"mystical realm of
tangi" show that something has gone
badly wrong in a society that is
prepared to accept
firstly such behaviour, and secondly such excuses.
The
deaths of the twins was reminiscent of the death of
Lillybing
Matiaha at Masterton in 2000. The similarity
was underlined by news that
Lillybing's mother, Terina
Matiaha, has had twin sons this year and that
one died,
seemingly of cot death, at Masterton Hospital on 4 June,
2006.
The Political Reaction
There was no shortage of
political comment and a cross party committee
was
convened last Wednesday at which I represented ACT. There is
nothing
new about the Kahui case but for some reason it
has caught the attention
of all New Zealand and at last
people are crying ‘enough'. It is
the latest in a long
string of child abuse deaths, each of them
equally
distressing when details are revealed of what
these infants and children
suffered in their short lives.
The cross party meeting was more of a
government
briefing. A taskforce report is due to be published in
two
weeks and the government has volunteered to share it
with other parties
as soon as it has been through
cabinet. My fear is that we will simply
see more
meetings, more reports and more recommendations, without
any
action. After all, we have had a Families Commission
for 2 years that
has produced well-reasoned reports which
go nowhere - our babies and
children are still being
abused.
My Views
When I gave my maiden speech in
parliament in 2002 I said the following:
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"...our
current policies are failing dramatically in the social
areas
and failing dramatically in the area of the family.
As a society we are
failing to protect our children from
abuse. Every day we seem to hear
heart-rending stories of
abused and murdered children. Their life
details are so
violent that I cannot read their full stories because
I
find them too distressing.
To suggest change in
social policy means that it is necessary to take a
look
at the nature of the state and its relationship to the
family. It
was once adequate for the state simply to
provide for the family's
physical protection and the
family was left to care for itself. However
the state has
replaced the breadwinner in many homes
producing
fatherless families."
Attitudes in New Zealand
In the reporting of the Kahui twins tragedy there
has been too much
emphasis on race. It is true that Maori
have a higher rate of child
abuse than the national
average but the problems with the social fabric
in New
Zealand are not confined to Maori. In fact, the problems
are
international as shown by this quote from a British
book, "The Welfare
State We're In" by James
Bartholomew:
"In the crime epidemic, children have been
particularly badly hit -
often literally."
The author
then reproduced a graph entitled "Babies: the most
commonly
killed people in modern Britain". Clearly, we in
New Zealand, are not
alone with our problems. Some people
have argued that murders constitute
only a small
proportion of total child deaths and that we need to
try
and keep things in perspective. However we all know
that for every child
who dies, there are hundreds or
thousands who endure severe beatings.
When a case comes to
light, Child, Youth and Family (CYF) are asked
to
investigate. They have to decide if the child is safe
in their home.
There is no easy answer, as it takes the
wisdom of Solomon to know when
to remove a child from a
family, and the whole area is fraught with
uncertainty. I
knew one family who lived in a small rural town.
The
parents were having difficulty controlling the
behaviour of their
adolescent son and were in despair.
One day the son burnt down their hay
barn and the father
administered a beating with the flex of an
electric
kettle. The father was charged with assault and
served three months in
jail, to the great distress of his
wife who had no hope of dealing with
her delinquent son
alone. It is hard to see who benefited from the
father's
punishment.
In the storm of commentary about child abuse
there has been a demand
that "something be done". One
example I heard was Brian Edwards being
interviewed on
National Radio. He was sure that CYF should take
more
action and that people should be "educated" on how
to care for children.
He should have come clean and said
that he had no idea what to do. In
reality CYF social
workers are laden with responsibility but have
little
power. People are quick to criticise them, and
vacancies are hard to
fill.
An important statistic in
the debate about child abuse is that the vast
majority of
children who are killed by their own family are not known
to
CYF. No complaint has been laid with them. Everyone is
wise in hindsight
but foresight is more difficult. There
are dysfunctional families by the
thousand but only a few
have disasters as bad as the Kahui twins.
Chris Trotter,
in his weekly DominionPost newspaper column,
abandoned
his usually thoughtful approach to speculate
who God would blame for the
Kahui twins' death. Culprits,
he concluded, include the colonial land
grab,
"thin-lipped" WINZ workers and Rogernomics. He has simply
written
a list of things he doesn't like and said they
are to blame for our
social ills. And he claims that God
thinks the same way.
It is easy to lay blame and the
authorities are an easy target. Real
blame, of course,
lies with those who do the abusing and it is to be
hoped
that the Kahui twins tormentors are caught and held
accountable.
The wider problem is that of our burgeoning
welfare state. Those who are
able bodied should be
working, drug and alcohol abuse must be tackled,
and
inter-generational welfare promoted as unacceptable. Until
the
causes of welfarism are addressed more babies like
the Kahui twins will
continue to die.
The cross-party
committee doesn't have to become just another
talk-fest.
We (all parties) could take control and
resolve to tackle some really
hard problems - such as
welfare reform - head on. I'll be taking these
proposals
to the table: Plunket Nurses regularly visiting all homes
of
at-risk families, time limits on welfare payments,
easy access to drug
and alcohol programmes, 40 hour a
week time contribution in exchange for
the unemployment
benefit and work testing for those on the DPB
when
children go to school. The time for talk is over and
the time for action
is now. Lets see if the Labour
government and their supporters are
really
listening.
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