Sage Wellness, a New Zealand founded Mind Body Nutrition practice, has revealed that 55 percent of Kiwis are struggling with diet perfectionism – an all or nothing approach to eating that can seriously damage a person’s
relationship with food.
The survey of 600 New Zealanders, which was run online during April, also revealed that 33 percent of Kiwis plan almost
all of their meals ahead of time, and 23 percent would feel anxious if they ate something that wasn’t part of their
eating regime. A troubling 15 percent feel like they would be letting their family or partner down if they didn’t strive
to be the perfect shape.
A number of respondents left notes about how diet or body perfectionism has a negative impact on their lives. One woman
“As much as I try not to, I am still often critical of my body. I don't feel comfortable in some clothes which makes me
want to stay home, or have a complete meltdown before going out complaining I have nothing to wear. It also has an
impact on my husband who constantly tells me I am beautiful and look great. I am back to weighing myself and feel
disheartened when every week I weigh exactly the same.”
Michelle Hall, Nutrition and Eating Psychology Coach – and owner of Sage Wellness – explains that perfectionism is one
of the most prominent and challenging issues that she has seen since establishing the business.
“So many people are looking for the perfect body, perfect weight, perfect diet, the perfect nutritional system, and
more. It seems like such a high-level approach to life – just do everything perfectly and we will reach that pinnacle of
success,” she says.
“Unfortunately, perfectionism isn’t all its cut out to be and it does have a toxic side to it that can be quite
debilitating and often overwhelming. It can taunt us, set us up for constant failure, and keep us in a perpetual state
of never feeling good enough about who we are, how we eat, and what we look like.”
According to Michelle, perfectionism in food and body often feels like the only way the individual can achieve their
goals. But Michelle points out that even if people with a perfectionist mindset do achieve their goals, it doesn’t
necessarily make them happy.
“There are those that may succeed and achieve what they think is their perfect weight or create their perfect body -
only to find themselves living in a constant state of anxiety for fear that they will lose their perfect achievement and
feel immense pressure to keep these perfect results. Let me tell you that is a very tough and stressful place to live.”
Michelle, who encourages a non-diet, holistic approach to health, acknowledges that it can be difficult to break free
from the perfectionist mind-set. However, a few small changes can help set someone off in a more positive direction.Focus on progress not perfection. The journey to having the body you want is all about progress – consistency, putting one foot in front of the other. It
isn’t about unsustainable extremes. It is about slow progress in the right direction, often with a few detours along the
way. Those detours are important, as that’s where the learning happens.Ask your friends and family if your perfectionism impacts them. If they say yes, request that they tell you honestly about the details of how your perfectionism shows up for them.
Ask for their advice on how you can improve here.Let go of perfectionist rituals. Do you constantly weigh yourself? Count calories and fat grams way too often? Do you look in the mirror and quickly
launch into criticism? If so, practice waking up, and start catching yourself in the act of trying to be perfect. Gently
let go of the inner self-talk – notice when it happens and look at how you can speak in a kinder, gentler, more
supportive way.Work on finding that middle path. Create an alternative that creates elements of both. Let go of outdated dietary beliefs – include your treats once or
so a week. Schedule these into your meals -give yourself permission to not be perfect. Letting go of dieting is a
self-graduation, its saying goodbye to an outdated way of thinking. Let go of a dearly cherished idea of perfection and
choosing a new balanced path.Live life more. Have fun. Put your attention back to the things that truly matter most.
If you would like to talk further about healing your relationship with food, overcoming food addiction, emotional or
binge eating or anything else related to mind body nutrition, book a free 15 minute consultation with Michelle by
For more information on Sage Wellness, visit sagewellness.co.nz