In some ways, men are disadvantaged by comparison to women – it has nothing to do with gender – because their emotional
vocabulary is smaller than that of women, and it is the central reason why so many men suffer catastrophic mental health
crises.
Simone-Ellen Keller, personal transformation strategist and founder of Genius You says that many men struggle to express themselves emotionally due to social conditioning, and this has significant
implications well-being.
"As a personal transformation strategist and founder of Genius You, I've witnessed firsthand the profound impact of
societal norms on men's emotional journey.
"Men and women possess the same spectrum of emotions, yet societal expectations dictate vastly different approaches to
emotional expression. From a young age, boys are taught to suppress vulnerability and uphold an image of stoicism.
Expressions of sadness, fear, or uncertainty are often dismissed or ridiculed, reinforcing the notion that real men
don't show emotions."
Conversely, says Keller, girls are encouraged to embrace vulnerability and seek support when needed.
"Women can navigate complex emotions and form deep connections with others. This discrepancy in upbringing sets the
stage for a lifelong struggle with emotional expression for some men."
Keller says it's time to dismantle these harmful stereotypes and empower men to embrace their emotions fully.
"Contrary to popular belief, vulnerability is not synonymous with weakness; it's a sign of strength and courage. By
acknowledging and accepting their emotional landscape, men can cultivate deeper connections with themselves and those
around them.
"Breaking free from ingrained societal norms is no easy feat. It requires a willingness to challenge existing beliefs
and step outside comfort zones. Men must recognise that seeking help is not a sign of failure but a proactive step
towards self-improvement. Whether through therapy, coaching, or support groups, there are myriad resources available to
facilitate this journey of self-discovery."
Keller says emotional growth is not a solitary endeavour because it requires a supportive community and a willingness to
engage in open, honest dialogue.
"By creating safe spaces for men to share their experiences and vulnerabilities, we can foster a culture of empathy and
understanding."
It's time to redefine what it means to be a man in today's society. She suggests the following three starting points:
1. Embrace Vulnerability: Challenge societal norms by allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Recognise that vulnerability is a sign of strength, not
weakness.
2. Cultivate Emotional Awareness: Take time to understand and express your emotions. Develop a vocabulary to articulate feelings and communicate
effectively with others.
3. Seek Support and Guidance: Engage in programmes or therapies focused on emotional growth. Take small steps towards change, knowing that personal
development requires patience and persistence.
"We need to shatter the silence surrounding men's mental health and pave the way for a more compassionate, inclusive
future. By embracing emotional growth, men can unlock their full potential and lead more fulfilling lives. Let's start
the conversation and break down the barriers that have held us back for far too long," Keller says.