9 April 2008
Helping children deal with family violence,
“Footsteps to Feeling Safe is about giving children the skills so that they understand violence is not okay, it’s not
their fault, and that it is important to seek help,” says Kirsty Rees, Footsteps to Feeling Safe coordinator for the
Wellington region.
“By the end of the 12-week programme each child will also have a safety plan, which they have practised and feel
confident that they can use if the need arises.”
This week, 19 children in the Wellington region are attending Footsteps to Feeling Safe programmes run by Barnardos New
Zealand. Another 16 are lined up for programmes due to start when the current ones finish. The programme, which aims to
counter the detrimental impact of family violence on children, is run by Barnardos with approval and funding from the
Ministry of Justice and Child , Youth and Family. It is offered in communities throughout the country.
“We use a mixture of play, creative activities and discussion to help children deal with issues such as the secrecy
surrounding family violence, the loss of a parent/caregiver, managing anger and expressing feelings appropriately and
developing safety plans,” says Kirsty.
“Although, in most cases, the violent family member no longer lives in the child’s home, safety cannot always be
guaranteed, which is why a safety plan is so important.”
“The safety plan may involve arranging an escape route to a trusted neighbour or hiding in a lockable room such as a
bathroom or laundry. Most children also have a cell phone that they can take with them to call for help.”
The impact of family violence on children is widely recognised. Children exposed to family violence live in a constant
state of heightened anxiety, and may have trouble sleeping, trouble learning, health problems, low self-esteem and
behave in ‘challenging’ ways at home, school and elsewhere.
“Family violence covers physical, emotional and verbal abuse. It is not restricted to any socio-economic group – it cuts
across boundaries,” says Kirsty.
“As well as helping children deal with the present, Footsteps to Feeling Safe aims to cut the cycle of family violence.”
The programmes are run on an individual, group (up to six) or family basis, with sessions held once a week for up to 12
weeks. The children’s resident parent and/or primary caregivers support the children’s involvement and attend three of
the 12 hour-long sessions.
In Christchurch, Barnardos is also running a pilot programme (based on a Canadian model) for the mothers of children on
the Footsteps to Feeling Safe Programme. The focus is clearly on the needs of the children, and feedback from
participants has been very positive.
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